10 Jun Are your relationships working for YOU?
For my first blog I wanted to touch on relationships, not necessarily boyfriend girlfriend relationships, but all sorts of relationships. Be it your mother, your daughter, your best friend, your grandpa, or your dog, every single relationship you have creates your personality and adds something different to your life. We all have had good and bad relationships, it’s what we chose to do with them and how we allow them to affect our lives that matters most. Have you ever had that one relationship that you just wondered, “Why the heck am I still holding on to this?” if that is the case, think about the things that person has to offer you positively and negatively. Do they make you smile? Laugh? Happy? Are they here for you when you need them? Or are they here when they need you? Do they cause you stress? And if so, what kind of stress? Because of course someone whom you love is going to cause you stress at some point or another, you start to care about that person and care if things are going wrong for them. That sort of stress is stress that is only there because you are a good person and you truly love and care for your friends and family. But if you have someone that is only coming around when you have great things going on, only seems to be there for you when you have something to offer in return, or one of those friends that only wants to hang out with you when they need a ride somewhere, it’s probably time to re-evaluate this friendship.
Letting go of a friend, family, or spouse is never an easy thing to do ever. I can tell you right now I am one of the worst people for this. I wish I could be there for every person I possibly could. And hold on to my friendship and be the best friend I can be. But in reality, if we are always living for someone else then where do YOU come in? When you surround yourself with good people, good things will come your way, when you surround yourself with people who like to ‘take’ then they will end up taking you for all you’ve got, leaving you drowned in your thoughts of “How did it turn out this way?”. You are an amazing, full hearted person for wanting to please everyone else, you really are. So tell yourself that. But if you are this person, I want to challenge you. Make note of the things you do for other people for the next week, write down how you feel at the end of each day and even create a little week conclusion if you feel up to it. Then the week after, live for absolutely nobody but yourself (and of course your kids if you have them). If somebody asks you to pick up a shift at work and you really don’t want to, then say no. BUT, as a reward for saying no, do something in return for yourself. Go to a hot yoga class or a nice long walk alone. If someone you know is a negative Nancy, and you find yourself getting a headache after being around them because you just heard a non-stop rant about how horrible their life is going, please give your head a break and stay away from them for the week. And in return, go hangout with someone who you know is always positive, and will make you feel good, and happy, just by being around them. If your boyfriend is really aching for that blow job, DON’T GIVE IN!!! (Just kidding) sexual pleasure in a relationship is very important for a healthy sustainable relationship, but don’t let him have it until he really makes your toes cringe first. This week is about YOU! So take control of your Schedule, Mental happiness, and Orgasms this week then look back at both weeks, and compare them! I would love to hear of the differences between the weeks, and your outlook afterwards.
Now, I’m not saying don’t ever do anything for anyone else ever. What I’m trying to say, is stop surrounding your life with the people who don’t care enough about you as you do about them. And start surrounding yourself with the people you know who care, love, and want nothing but your happiness. Your life is in your own hands. Hold on to the things that really matter, and don’t let the thing that don’t matter, slide the things that do through your fingers.